Friday, December 31, 2010

Walk the Dog – A New Year’s Resolution


Among siblings few things change quantitatively over time – I will always be a little brother. A few years ago, rapidly accelerating towards thirty years of age, I found myself playing the baby brother role in Boston – my big brother's very new hometown. Outside various shops between Washington Square and Harvard Street in the Brookline neighborhood I stood awkwardly, embracing my trademark insecurity, waiting for my big brother to purchase some picture hangers at the hardware store or pick up a to-go order from the Thai restaurant (well worth the wait). And why was I waiting outside? Because little brother was holding big brother's dog – "you hold Baxter while I get this…it'll just take a minute." Yeah, right. Baxter, a massive, hundred-plus pound yellow Labrador mix, and I had ample time to bond as we stood, sat, and occasionally lay down along Beacon Street.

But, as I soon discovered, being the designated little-brother dog-walker did have its benefits. Standing along the bustling sidewalks, filled with thousands of defrosting Bostonians enjoying the perfect New England summer weather, Baxter became quite the conversation piece. "Your dog is beautiful" and "That's the biggest head I've ever seen" were frequent comments of passersby. Often other dog owners would stop to strike up a conversation as well – their Pekinese and Chihuahuas yapping and growling incessantly while Baxter calmly investigated exactly what type of creatures these little things were.

There was a great sense of humanity to the whole process. Gracious comments passed from one to another, the engagement of human beings in conversation, and expressions of sincere interest in one another's lives – even if at an introductory level. I had more discussions with more people in three days than I had had in suburban Atlanta in the last three years. There's something about being 'out there' walking and talking in the streets that produces a true sense of community, and real opportunities for all sorts of ministry. And there's nothing like a dog in the city to keep you on the street – off the couch and near the fire hydrant.

Jesus was always on the move – from town to town, village to village. Certainly Jesus' ministry would have been much easier if everyone had just come to him – he definitely could have saved on sandal treads. Like John the Baptist he could have established a central location and then waited for the crippled, blind, poor and miscreants to simply come to him. Jesus was a carpenter, surely he knew how to erect a building – and with Matthew's experience collecting taxes starting a capital campaign would not have been a stretch. But, Jesus did none of those things.

Jesus moved through the streets and byways making himself available for individuals and communities in need. And along the street he entertained a broken humanity with healing. The unnamed woman with the blood issue, Zacchaeus, and blind Bartamaeus all found healing after meeting Jesus in the street. Jesus' transformative power was revealed through the daily dynamics of human interaction – he 'walked his dog', as it were.

Wearily standing outside my brother's apartment, Baxter in-tow, I ran into his neighbor. Recently widowed and transplanted from Virginian suburbia to urban Boston, she had spent the entire day discovering the joys of laundry mats. With little more than a sincere "how are you doing?," she opened up the pain of her life to another human being who would listen. It had been a hard day, burying the dagger of a lost marriage partner of thirty-eight years deep into her heart. Her sense of loss heightened, she let choked tears go as she shared her story with another human being who patiently gave her the time to speak. As I finally submitted to Baxter's pleas for relief, she opened her apartment door in a much better mood – "Thank you." A healing had occurred in the street.

Later, outside a video store in nearby Washington Square I found myself again staring through the glass leashed to the Behemoth. Many passed in and out with polite smiles and greetings. From the parking lot I saw a stern looking man walking slowly towards the door. But, as he approached a smile crossed his face as he stared at the large Labrador sprawled on the pavement. Then on his way out he stopped and reached out his hand to rub Baxter's neck. For a full minute he silently stroked his fur. Looking up to speak for the first time he said in a deep Russian accent, "I lost my dog a few months ago." Returning his attention to the great beast latched to my arm he received a bevy of warm licks to his hand. Turning to leave, he simply and sincerely said, "Thank you." Another healing on the street.

Certainly I didn't perform any supernatural miracles, but it seems the truly miraculous is bound up in the natural. Unwittingly I found myself made available to the world in the seeming triviality of walking my brother's dog.

A few weeks ago we welcomed Cleo, a yellow Labrador puppy, into our home. My New Year's resolution is to take her on many walks in my neighborhood. Though far from the crowded metropolis of Boston, I look forward to the many people we will meet along the way this year in our town…and the many opportunities to receive and offer healing on the street. – D. Christian Nix, January 1, 2011

Friday, December 10, 2010

Mary’s Son

Fox's new sitcom Raising Hope is really growing on me. It is a comedy depicting a family living on the socio-economic margins of society (like Roseanne) – in stark contrast to the vast majority of programs that seemingly normalize the lives of the upper middle class and wealthy. The basic storyline is that of a young twenty-something man, born to teenage parents whom he still lives with, learning to raise a baby girl, Hope, on his own. Oh yeah, and the mother of the child is a now executed serial killer (you may have to watch it yourself to grasp the humor in all this).

In the most recent Christmas episode Hope is turned down for the role of baby Jesus in the local church's 'live nativity.' Why? Because she is apparently known around town as the "murderer's baby." The rest of the show centers on the family's (humorously misguided) efforts to transform Hope's image. Family and friends all participate in acts of love towards a child who they believe deserves a meaningful life despite the circumstances surrounding her birth. It is indeed a true Christmas story.

For many Christians, one of the most celebrated aspects of Christmas is Jesus' birth (conception?) to a virgin girl named Mary. I'm not sure this was how the villagers in Nazareth would have viewed it. If we read between the lines (and I think we must because the traditions Matthew and Luke present are different in so many important ways) we can see the social and cultural mess surrounding Jesus' birth, much apart from the stories of King Herod's wrath and the inn with no vacancies. Mark, whose gospel was earliest and yet gives no birth tradition, may be the most telling. In Mark 6:3 a seemingly innocuous statement is made – Jesus is called "Mary's son." Given the context of the passage and the patriarchal system of the day the phrase "Mary's son" was far from innocent verbiage, it was an insult. Jesus was Mary's son – and NOT Joseph's. As we see in Mark 6, the residents of Jesus' hometown were not keen to accept his teaching because he was a son of ill repute – Mary's bastard son. Jesus had been labeled from even before his birth. Not only was he born on the 'wrong side of the tracks' in Nazareth (see John 1:46), but the morality of his birth, and thus his own, was questionable.

A couple of years ago a friend shared with me an experience he had at a Christmas mass. Nominally Catholic by virtue of marriage he was unfamiliar with certain traditions (and let it be clear I intend no disgrace towards those traditions – just curious wonderment). The congregation sorted out row by row towards the front of the chapel – as if to take communion. Only as he approached very near to the priest did he realize he was being summoned to kiss the knee of a plastic baby Jesus doll. He found this quite humorous, "what the hell is that about?," he said, still laughing about it weeks later. He did recall that the plastic baby Jesus received a sound knee cleaning after each kiss – how very sanitary Jesus has become in our churches.

Many of us have heard preachers stand in pulpits and talk about a plastic baby Jesus – a perfect Jesus, a Jesus that was squeaky clean, a sanitized Jesus who proclaimed a sanitized gospel. It's all very neat and orderly. The storm of gossip and questions that surrounded his childhood has been silenced. The tattered clothes of his childhood have been replaced with gleaming robes of white. If we believe the famous hymn Silent Night, the baby Jesus didn't even cry (he must have been plastic!). There was nothing messy about Jesus' life from their perspective – and there damn well better not be anything messy in yours!

Each Easter Christians celebrate the Jesus who bore the sins of the world on the cross. It may be more apropos at Christmas to remember the Jesus who truly bore the sins of the world in a manger in Bethlehem – poverty, violence, prejudice and marginalization. Many 'sons and daughters of Mary' are with us today living in broken homes, economically disadvantaged, and presumed guilty or corrupt because of the street they live on or because of the pronunciation of their last name. Like Jesus, they need mothers with courage like Mary, fathers willing to stand in and take responsibility like Joseph and mentors who can share a vision like John the Baptist.

The real story of Christmas is that of a child who was loved and blessed by those who saw his value when others did not. And in turn, he became love and blessing for others (like no other!). This may be the great 'Hope' of Christmas – a hope that we can share with the sons and daughters of Mary who live around us today. – D. Christian Nix, 12/10/2010

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"Simeon took (Jesus) in his arms and praised God, saying, '…my eyes have seen your salvation.'" – Luke 2:28-30 (NIV)

"Well happy birthday Jesus, sorry your party is so lame!" – Michael Scott (Steve Carell), The Office